Your body language shapes who you are

Wow, 2 minutes ‘power posing’ can affect your confidence and outcomes!

Your body language shapes who you are Amy Cuddy, TED 2012

…and for my christian friends: IF and WHEN God has called you to something, I was reminded of Jeremiah 1:17

A Woman of Worth

Many thanks to Leslie and Alison…you have once again caused me to think about how I do things, and how I “do me.”

I’m certain the emphasis is not quite so much on ‘what’ we’re doing, but the attitude and/or motivation with which we are doing ‘it’!

Proverbs 31:10-31

Intentional, relational

Personal and seasonal

Energetic, excellent

Empathic and most reverent

Persistent and so diligent

Consistency and confident

Loving, willing, virtuous

Fearless, strong, industrious

Wise, discerning, disciplined

Entreat, create, envisag – ed

 

A woman after God’s own heart

Should enjoy the fruits of work

All she has done we will applaud

Her inner self, our best reward

 

15/5/2014

Quoting

Betty Edwards – Drawing on the Artist Within

We have become accustomed to thinking of artistic ability as basically unteachable…Moreover, many…have shared the unspoken belief that artistic abilities are largely non-essential…

I propose that learning to see and draw is a very efficient way to train the visual system, just as learning to read and write can efficiently train the verbal system. That is not to say that the visual system is better, morally or otherwise, than the verbal system. But the two systems are different. And when trained as equal partners, one mode of thinking enhances the other, and together the two modes can release human creativity.

My claim is quite modest…Through learning to draw perceived objects or persons, you can learn new ways of seeing that guide strategies in creative thinking and problem solving just as, through learning to read, you acquire verbal knowledge and learn the strategies of logical, analytical thought…And you will have taken a giant step toward attaining a modern brain.

Victor Lowenfeld: via Betty Edwards – Drawing on the Artist Within

We have to regard it our sacred responsibility to unfold and develop each individual’s creative ability as dim as the spark may be and kindle it to whatever flame it may conceivably develop. (Basics of Creative Thinking – 1961)

Robyn Krowicky – singing/piano teacher

Music engages both sides of the brain.

My 17 year old daughter

Sight reading and singing at the same time engages both sides of the brain.

John Anderson – ‘Open House’ interview – paraphrase

Beliefs, values, behaviour, ethics, policy.

Unsure who it was I read or heard this from but…perhaps Dr Hugh Mackay

We tend to practice what is natural or what we know already rather than practicing what is unfamiliar to further develop it.

Mick and Ruby Duncan – Alongsiders

Work from your weaknesses.

Responding

So, be holistic! Practice holistically, attend to your whole being.

We were made in the image of The Creator.

If (as I have repeatedly heard in recent years) men are naturally drawn to the ‘visual’ and women to the ‘verbal’, which should we practice more?

Have we been re-creating lopsided monsters instead of holistic persons?

That is all.

Quoting and Responding

Building: Foundations First

Thinking about building, or re-building, or restoration, or establishment that lasts.

My understanding is that foundations matter. Whether the need is deep into the sea-bed or a broad base; whether a firm concrete floor or well spaced stumps, bearers and joists; whether a corner stone or paver to ensure straight alignment. It wouldn’t matter the quality of the work or materials added, if the foundation is not aligned correctly, broad enough, deep enough, strong enough or of appropriate material.

So, what are my foundations? Are they quality material for building a life on? Are my foundations deep and broad to hold me when storms pass my way? Have I allowed the progression of the establishment of well-spaced/timed stages? Do I have a sure and straight corner stone to measure all other building against? Where do I look to find my foundations? On the soles of my feet, the ground I walk on, the chair where I sit…?

Have I ever considered my inner self? What has formed me to be me, and were those things true and strong for adding on to?

Certainly the parenting I experienced, the school or home education I sat under, the nature of my relationships, things done and said to me, things I did and said to others, world events, local community events, spiritual dimensions of the lives around me, my physical nourishment or lack-there-of. I’m sure if you sit long and quietly enough, you too could discover what your foundations to the life you live now have been.

Do you find a ‘cornerstone’ there? Something of absolute truth, firm and established? Perhaps your only foundations have been ‘hazy’ at best, unstable, not certain? No matter our age, we can look for the thing that is sure, true, straight and of substance worthy of building onto. This is the foundation that will hold all else we build up so that the beauty of our building is seen, and lasts, and weather’s the storms, and glories in the light.

If your foundations were shaky, start again! The memory of the unstable will serve as a guide for what to steer clear of this time; and a message of guidance for others building around you – never wasted, but better replaced with the stable. Have a go, I know you can!!

For those interested, I learned much about re-building from Ezra and Nehemiah.

Learning From Children

One of the best books I have read about having children with a disability is ‘Lessons I Learned From My Child’. I have loaned it to a friend and can’t remember the authors at present, but it was written by a psychologist, and parents, with parent stories for illustration. It was published in New Zealand and takes you through the process/stages of grief when there is disability in the family.

The ‘lesson’ I most appreciated from the book was that when there is disability in one’s family, especially a child, grief is usually perpetual. Death is an event, and although the pain and loss is revisited throughout life in varying degrees and hopefully with decreased intensity, the event has passed. When a child has a disability grieving events keep coming; milestones reached late or not at all, life experiences not to be had or that show up ‘difference’…I appreciated this the most because I learned that my grief was normal even in these circumstances, and I know that grief needs to be experienced – allowed – in order to process through it regardless of how many times I face this process. My recent, and not-yet-complete, journey through a grief of another kind confirms this to be true, as does much research.

I have learned many other lessons from and because of my children also. As a result of needing input from physiotherapists, occupational therapists, speech therapists, early childhood educators and specialist teachers, orientation and mobility instructors (and often doing these things alongside families with myriad disabilities),  I have learned much about the human body, mind, soul and spirit. I have learned much about the impact of each of these on the other; the impact of relationships on the individual and vice-versa; the impact of the inner self on development, interaction, attitude, influence…

From my children specifically, I have learned not to be afraid (though I often still am). My children have taught me what it is to accept myself, because they do that of themselves. As their parent, I have learned that as one of their primary care-givers and instructors, I contribute to who they are but I do not entirely make them who they are. The uniqueness of every individual is beautiful, mysterious, challenging, enlightening, confusing and a wonder to me.

There is so much in others that I wish to be a part of me. Some of these things I can learn and develop, but some are not mine to have. They belong with someone else as parts of me are mine alone, and I need to be ok with that. To be reverently made is a wonderful truth.

Embrace yourself and those around you, making each of us more of a wonder – daily.