Well, been a little absent for a while but have had much time and opportunity to ponder. Here’s to teenage children who arrange themselves a trip to school overseas…and provide an opportunity for the mother as well!!
Been thinking about forgiveness, trust and respect.
A lot is said of forgiveness being something we do for ourselves, something we offer another (even if they don’t accept it, or deserve it), a gift rather than an entitlement. I’ve heard a lot more said of trust and respect being earned. I guess, in a sense that is true…someone is more likely to trust you if you have behaved in a trustworthy manner. But I think the three are gifts offered, not earned.
We may well respect someone who acts with integrity, and may actively find ways to demonstrate that respect. But respecting someone is a choice we make, and we may choose not to respect someone though their character and actions are deemed worthy of respect.
Likewise, trust is something we choose (or not) to offer another. Some will trust another without evidence of trustworthiness, or even in spite of evidence to the contrary.
Trust, respect and forgiveness are not things you or I are entitled to.
Trust, respect and forgiveness are gifts you or I offer another.
If you or I are trusted, respected and/or forgiven…we are the privileged receivers of some of the most generous and gracious of gifts. Endeavour to receive them gratefully and graciously; endeavour never to demand them.